Several of us who have pages on Facebook have decided to post something everyday in the month of November that we are thankful for. Diary of a Not So Wimpy Mom started this, and so many of us loved the idea we decided to join her and do it as well.
For November 1st, I posted that I was thankful for Mister, and November 2nd I posted how thankful I was for the people who have joined my Facebook page. However, today’s post was going to be a bit long for a Facebook status, and it is something that I really felt the need to blog.
For November 3rd, I am thankful for the fact that my kids love their Step-Dad, and that he loves them in return. Anyone out there who has a blended family knows how amazing this is. Introducing a new person into the kids’ lives, and making sure they understood that person was NOT a replacement for one of their other parents was quite a feat. We worked very hard to make sure they knew that no one was going to require that they have any kind of affection for Mister, as well as letting them know that it was ok to have more than two parent-type adults in their lives.
Now, they all don’t outright say “I love you” to each other very often, but you can tell they feel that way. Every night the kids give us both Goodnight hugs, and sometimes the younger two will give him a little kiss on the cheek too. As they skip off to their rooms sometimes they’ll holler back, “Love ya!” to both of us. And the other day when I was introducing Mister as the kids’ step-dad to someone, Josh threw his arms around him and said, “And I love him SO much!” That just melted my heart.
I know how much Mister loves them, simply by how he treats them and helps to parent them. They know it too. Megan, the teenager, considers him her ally when she feels I am being unreasonable. They all go to him with any serious questions or concerns. There was even an incident about 6 months ago when Megan had finished a conversation with her Dad and immediately asked if she could speak with Mister and I afterwards. When we asked her what was going on, she turned to MISTER, told him her issue and what her Dad had advised her, and then asked him what HE thought of it. The kids all know that he is reasonable, fair, and they all know that he will give them an explanation if they ask for it (and many times even when they don’t!). We never say to them, “Because I said so” although sometimes I am sorely tempted to!
I could not have asked for a better relationship between the kids and Mister. I am so glad that they all do care for each other so much, and that they all respect each other. I know all of that has come from no one feeling pressured or forced to “like” the other person. It also comes from the kids having the knowledge that they have the freedom to say what they think and feel, and that they may respectfully question us, and our rules, and we will respond to them and their concerns just as respectfully.
I am thankful for this family!!